The results

Here is the problem we are dealing with.... It's called chromosomal translocation.
After the D&C,  I was called in to hear the results from my RE. She was happy, she said we had done everything we possibly could for the pregnancy and it was nothing we missed or could have done. She reported to me that the baby had a chromosome abnormality. She then informed me he was a boy. I felt myself smile. I know that sounds strange but it was the fact that the week before I lost him I told J I thought it was a boy. I don't know why I felt that way and I didn't have any feelings with the two previous babies. However knowing that I have some kind of motherly instinct gave me great comfort and even pleasure. The RE then suggested that J and I be tested for any genetic abnormalities. I knew that chromosomal anomalies is what the majority of early miscarriages are attributed to, and did not expect either of us to have a problem with this. A week later we in the genetic counselor's office getting the results of the testing. She informed us one of us has a chromosomal translocation, and begin to explain what that meant. I honestly was extremely surprised by this, out of all the possibilities I had thought could be the cause of our problem this was not it. She explained that many couples choose not to know who the carrier is so that no one is blamed. We both knew this was no ones fault and did choose to learn who the carrier is, because to some extent it can effect the options you have.
As basic as I can explain translocation, it is where the person has the correct number of chromosomes, they are just not in the correct place. If you are interested in more information there are a ton of websites that discuss it and ours is balanced. This doesn't mean we can't have children, it just means it will be more of a challenge for us.